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The Shadows in our Life

My sister has two daughters – and when they first moved to America some years ago, the girls were both in high school. My younger niece, is a kind and gentle soul and a gifted artist. Fairly soon into her school career she knocked up against a Southern Belle by the name of Harper. Harper took an instant dislike to my niece and this scorn was equalled and bettered by my niece. For 6 years these girls became arch rivals and much of my niece's news often referenced the wrong doings of Hog-Faced Harper (as her moniker became).  It

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Frozen Time

At the age of about 3 or 4 my mother left England returning to Africa with her family because her father, an engineer in the British Army, was stationed in East Africa for the tail end of World War II. The family moved into a very simple dwelling in the Katavi region of what was then Tanganyika (now Tanzania) and there she  enjoyed a carefree childhood for a few years. At the age of 7 my mother’s mother died from cerebral malaria leaving behind 4 children, the youngest only 18 months old. Distraught and at a loss with what to

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Activity 5: The Roles We Play

Our family is the first groups we belong to. They teach us how to behave in other groups. Think about where you sat in your family dynamic on the  scales outlined in the activity. Were you more included or excluded in activities and conversations? Did you cause chaos and drama or try to induce peace and calm? Were you the one challenging the rules and comments made by your parents / care givers and siblings or were you the one who listened and did what was told? What about leading – did you dominate conversations and events or

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Activity 2: Signature Moments

If you look at the timeline / pathway that you completed in Activity 1 you will see a selection of transformative events from your life. You have chosen these particular moments to represent something that you learned about yourself or life and has helped shaped you into the person you are today. Ideally you should have at least 5 or 6 signature moments – obviously this is age dependant. Use Activity 2 Worksheet for Signature Moments which will ask you 10 questions that you can answer for each of your signature moments. The

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