Before you know what kindness really is you must lose things, feel the future dissolve in a moment like salt in a weakened broth. What you held in your hand, what you counted and carefully saved, all this must go so you know how desolate the landscape can be between the regions of kindness. How you ride and ride thinking the bus will never stop, the passengers eating maize and chicken will stare out the window forever. Before you learn the tender gravity of kindness you must travel
Browsing category: Sadness
"The largest part of what we call 'personality' is determined by how we've opted to defend ourselves against anxiety and sadness." Alain de Botton
"Grief is the price we pay for love." Queen Elizabeth II
“All sorrows can be borne if you can put them into a story.” Karen Blixen
“I’ve learned, the hard way, that some poems don’t rhyme, and some stories don’t have a clear beginning, middle, and end. Life is about not knowing, having to change, taking the moment and making the best of it, without knowing what’s going to happen next. Delicious Ambiguity”
At all times loss surrounds us. We don’t always notice it though. People move to new homes, welcome babies to the world, get awarded promotions, graduate from school: no matter how welcome the change there is still the spectre
"As the wind can lift the snow off a branch, the cries altogether can somehow lift the sadness off a broken heart." Mark Nepo
Perhaps it’s because one of the inalienable rights specified in the American Declaration of Independence is the pursuit of happiness, but recently it seems the search for happiness is everywhere. Books on happiness, courses extolling the seven habits of happy people, there’s happiness conferences, and expos, and magazines, and TV shows. The need for happiness seems to be showing up everywhere I look. It comes up as a theme in coaching: people worried that they are not happy; that they are living below the happiness quotient
"We need never be ashamed of our tears.”
Charles Dickens, Great Expectations
"Tragedy is a tool for the living to gain wisdom, not a guide by which to live."
"Life is sad, and sadness is not something that should be avoided or denied. It's a fact of life, like contradictions are."